Ohhh my grandpa. He may speak down to me, but what a child. I can only defend him to myself for so long before I perceive him as immature and insensitive. Strike One. When you let down the ladies who have been doing unlimited tasks for you because you're too timid and restless to be in the same house as your dying wife... well that's too much. The nurse needs someone else there that's all. Hardly any pressure.
I don't know. If I was married to someone for sixty years, I might act differently. Death does weird things to people.